Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
Spreading the word.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.
If someone is doing something that makes you uncomfortable like this, you do not need to be nice. Swear, kick, scream, make the asshole cry. You don’t have to nice, be as rude as you want
Every day I get the tube at rush hour in central London, these get so packed that at times you’re literally sandwiched between people with no space to even move your arms. I’ve had a few situations where men have blatantly touched my ass but never felt confident enough to say anything.
Not long ago, a guy was literally cupping my ass and squeezing whenever the train jolted, using that almost as his excuse. At first I just violently jolted away from him and he had the nerve to shuffle that couple of inches closer to continue to feel my ass. That was the first time I decided I wasn’t going to take it, so I spun around (keeping in mind there weren’t even inches between us as the train was so crowded) and shouted right in his face “Remove your hand from my arse immediately or I will fly my knee into your fucking balls without a second thought”.
The guy instantly moved away a good few inches and went bright red, he couldn’t even attempt to deny it. Another guy next to me offered to swap places with me, which we did so…
The entire carriage gave the creep the filthiest looks and he was basically forced to get off at the next station, his stop or not.
I can’t believe I used to just let things like that happen out of embarrassment. Seriously girls, or even guys, if anything like that ever happens, do NOT hesitate to shoot that pervert down. Use the people around you as a shield and reason to embarrass them. NO ONE accidentally holds, squeezes or touches someone’s butt… So do not convince yourself it was probably an accident like I used to.
You have every right to lash out in any manner.
Do not stand for sexual assault.
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